Derekh eretz translates as “the way of the earth.” But what the phrase really means is that we think before we act and speak. Always.
God’s eyes see all; nothing is secret or unknown. Even if that were not that case, when we sin, it tarnishes our soul. We become more brazen and less intimidated by the wrongdoing that it becomes much easier to sin the next time. Pirkay Avot says explicitly, “a sin gives birth to another sin” (4:2) Derekh eretz implies that we treat everything and each moment with respect.
Derekh eretz is an also an attitude that insists demands that people be given “the benefit of doubt” for their perceived flaws. We are pretty good at forgiving ourselves while being not so adept at forgiving others their shortcomings.
Derekh eretz means considering the food of life that we are about to consume is a gift from God. It means understanding our breath as a blessing not to be taken for granted. It means allowing others to get accolades instead of seeking them for our selves. In fact, the rabbis of old were so insistent on this positive command that they said, Derekh eretz kadmah l’Torah, “Acting with dignity [even] precedes the Torah,” (Vayikra Rabbah 9). You cannot fully observe the Torah without first living the life of derekh eretz. This is a radical thought. Respect for life is a prerequisite to Torah.
After all, what is the good in observing mitzvot if we do not treat one another and the world with derekh eretz? We all know for personal experience that even holy things can be misused for profane purposes.
Talmud is vast and takes into account virtually every aspect of life imaginable. One little known tractate of the Talmud is called Derekh Eretz Zuta. Here is how it begins:
This is the way of the righteous: “To be humble and not full of oneself. To attempt to be filled with love, especially with the members of one’s household.” It goes on to tell us to “be like Joseph who forgave his brothers, or even Job who accepted his pain uncomplaining.”
Derekh Ertez Zuta acknowledges that we are selfish. It is an effort to fight against that internal yearning for self-aggrandizement especially when we are asked to compare our selves, our accomplishments, our possessions, and our wealth against others.
The messiah who will appear not as God’s messenger but as a beggar, invalid or someone whom we would rather not associate. When he is no longer banished to the fringes of society he will be free to reveal himself. When each person is treated with derekh eretz the messiah will have arrived.
Remember that you are made in the image of God. So is the person next to you. Love yourself. Turn that love outward toward others. That love should be equivalent (remember the Torah adage, “Love your neighbor [just as you] love yourself.”
Bless each breath, every morsel of food you eat, each moment when you greet your fellow, the words that come out of your mouth and even the thoughts that enter your mind.
